The balance of discipline and affection is tough these days!
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I must say that this "temporary" stage of uncouth/stubborness/rebellion/whiny/sneaky/cleverness is NO JOKE!!! I'm choosing my words wisely by calling it temporary because I do not by any means want to speak about it as if it's permanent or will last a very long time. Oh yea I'm referring to my wonderful, smart, obedient, willing-attitude having 3 year old in Jesus name. Amen. *inserts heart (no heart today!)
Y'all it's been more days than not that I've had that I want to put him up! Like, yesterday, I was telling Hubbie that this was one of those days that I could put him up for like a 1-week adoption and then get him back. I mean, honestly, wouldn't it be cool if someone else could just take your child for a whole week when you need a break from all the shenanigans and episodes of crazy that your kids bring some days (months!😩). I'm just saying, I would likely pay for it WILLINGLY! Name your price!! People could get rich off of something like this. And the people who would sign up for this torture could be people who don't really want kids permanently, or like them but want to have them and be able to give them back! A.K.A. Grandparents😂... They could maybe help us parents out and talk some sense into them or break some of these episodes! These are just my thoughts that I have so DON'T JUDGE ME ... judge ya mama! Hey I know you guys think I just have it together because I post funny pics and videos, eat healthy (most days 😋) and exercise but this mama can relate to the crazy and stress that comes with mommyhood too!
So the battle has just been being able to still be all lovey dovey with the little turd when he's been AWFUL 12 hrs out of the 24... meaning 10 hrs of night time sleep, 2 hr nap (that he doesn't hardly take so he's up in his room climbing and diving off any and everything he can to stay up‼️) so he's up for the other 10 tap-dancing on my NERVES! I'm talking within 15 minutes of him being up I'm already hott as some fish grease! I told y'all about two fifths of the shenanigans in my previous post entitled 2 Wasn't As Bad... Age 3, I May Need Bail Money! Yea hit that link!
Ok so one of the other parts I forgot to mention was the A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E shifts that happen at the drop of a hat! YES! Because of that attitude, I had to do 2, TWO, DOS, ✌🏾 photoshoots recently. It was for my baby's 1 year but I "thought" it would be so cute to combine it with pics of them together and of course a couple family shots. Welp! That was an epic fail! No lie, only about 3 shots came out cute! Not beautiful but just cute! The baby was a little awkward because he didn't know what was going on. Lol! The other one was fake-whining through every snap! As soon as he saw what we were trying to accomplish, he went from nice and willing to a REBEL. I literally saw the shift happen. It was all in the eyes when he saw us cheering and I knew then, this is NOT going to go well like it has all the other times in the past by far! Then when I got the proofs back, this is what they looked like👉🏾👉🏾👉🏾. Welp! WON'T BE ORDERING THESE! NOT HAPPENING!
I was so D-O-N-E! Like really moms, has there ever been a time you wanted to fight your child?
This was the day! It was August so it was HOTT and then my photographer was nice enough to find us a shaded area but the way my sweat glands are set up, as long as the sun is out and I'm moving around then they are in full effect😤.
So dealing with stuff like this, I have to be SUPER INTENTIONAL about making sure I'm loving on him even though he's getting punished and fussed at half the day it feels like. At first I was NOT doing a very good job of that at all and it hit me one day that I had not loved on him like I should for some time. At that point, I made a decision that I would still give him lots of kisses, hugs, and cuddles because regardless, he will grow up one day and I will regret not picking his oversized body up and holding him more. I also realized too that because he doesn't come for it that I have to initiate. He's more like me in that so he is my reinforcement-teacher in how to continue to love people no matter what. Because there are days when I don't want to really be a mom because I need a break for that day but when I push through it (because I have NO CHOICE), they do something sweet and then I'm able to push past my emotions. It's in those moments, I remember their innocence and how they are doing the best they can too along with me. We're really growing together even though I grew up first. I mean I still have like 18 more years with these little things!
Moms, how are you balancing discipline and affection with your kids that are a little more challenging for you?
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In the meantime, have a wonderful week and remember, you're already AMAZING!
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