MOTHER-less Parenting Part 4: Moms Were Created For A Reason
It’s been a journey as you’ve read and followed me through these last weeks of the most horrible parts of my life to say the least. I can honestly say that I’m not just surving the loss of my mom but I can say I today "I am thriving" as well. I couldn't see this day 5 years ago EVER but beloveds, that day exists when you pray, receive God's love and peace, and push through in those toughest hours.
Do I miss her? E-VE-RY-DAY! There’s not 1 day I don’t think about my sassy, jazzy, witty, heels wearing even when she cooked and cleaned, get you together short and sweet unapologetically, classy, skinny jeans wearing, wise, stubborn, best sweet potato pie making, gorgeous mom. It’s hard not to when a lot of what I know as a mom came from her (and my dad as well). However, it's something about moms that are irreplaceable. They are perfect imperfections of true love and what real dedication looks like. They kiss your boo-boos when you're small and they give up their lives for you later to make sure you are taken care of if need be. They put themselves second to your well-being daily. They make sure you have first. They're there when you mess up and they are there when you win. They are your biggest fan no matter how much they fuss❤️. Lol... They are super courageous and would lay down their life if it came to it. Oh and FYI, it does not matter if you didn't birth that child either. A mom is a mom.
[I apologize if you did not have this experience. Know that every one of us as human beings have things that we sometimes cannot overcome the way we want to or when we want to so it makes it hard to try to be something to someone that we aren't even to ourselves. People are where they are and who they are until they can change their mindset and/or pull themselves up. It's just a sad truth.]
I swear it's not until you have your own family that you realize the epitome of how amazing your mom is and how challenging and impossible it was at times. It is SO sad that we have to see it so late like this but it's the unpleasant truth for most of us. I don't know about you but I can remember my mom always saying, "You just wait until you have your own kids lil' girl..." Man was she RIGHT! Heck marriage as well but MOST DEFINITELY KIDS! Chiiiiiiiiiile! Marriage is no joke and when you have kids, you question life! LOL! I mean you realize how exhausting it can be and how beautiful and rewarding it is at the same time when you become a mom. If you thought you were on fire pre-kids, just wait til you have kids and you realize you just might have "super powers" because they push you in a way like no other! Kids have a way of making you so creative at anything (i.e. surviving, projects, fixing things). For some of us, our kids have been our greatest teachers at times. I know mine have helped me get over me and people being in my personal space. HECK, labor and delivery did that first with your legs all up and spread eagle!!! They have also loosened me up because I can be very rigid in how I like things to look and be a certain way and now I don't pass out if the floor is covered in toys, shoes, or I find carrots hidden in the bookshelf😳. I just smile, pick it up and keep it moving. However, I cringe til this day at a poopy diaper. Yes I will still wrap my face to mask the smell too if need be. #JudgeYaMamaNotMe
All in all moms, you're needed and YOU ARE loved... even when your kids act a fool and make you feel like your time and efforts are being wasted. It's part of the journey. When they get older, they will think you were the best thing since sliced bread I promise!!!❤️😘💙
In the meantime ladies, have a wonderful week and remember you're already AMAZING!!!
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